My language, my rules

I remember discussing the sitcom FRIENDS with one of my friends. After some time he said "You know you are a little like Monica". I didnt like the sound of that, but I still ventured, "Cute?".
"No, control freak".
We laughed, and then I remember saying that I'm not a control freak, I'm just a perfectionist. Being organised, being in control of the situation - that for me, is perfection.

The point is... a control freak is a person who has an obsessive need to control other people or situations. Perfectionism, on the other hand, is defined as a meticulous pursuit to reach excellence. And just because I prefer the sound of the one word over the other, I cant define myself using it. Language has some rules. So its not enough to say, "well, I like to call it....". Coz unless you coined that word, you dont have the liberty to use it to massage your ego as and when you want.

You go out with someone, have romantic inclinations, and then say... I dont call this a date. But my dear friend, it is a date! You lead a person on no end, hugs kisses and all, till the person is 110 percent certain you love him.. and then you say, this for me is friendship. Ok, lousy examples. Both of them. Because these are vague situations and broad words. But hope you get the point.

All I'm trying to say is, next time, you use a word "your way", think for a minute. You have 2 options - use it the way the world uses it (whether you like it or not), or start a new language. And do keep us informed if you do the latter. I'll enroll for classes.